Chat With Rhonda
March 2010
In keeping with the focus of this year on the parents/caregivers, I receive many contacts on how do we parent our child who has AI/RAD. That is a very complicated question as there are so many variables. I have yet to meet the AI/RAD child who will respond the way I expect or hope they will. These children expel a tremendous amount of time and energy trying to out think, control, and out manipulate us. I can share that you will need to develop improved and new parenting skills to accomplish the task of parenting these children. Here are but a few suggestions and you can find more information in my book.
CONTROL WITHOUT PAIN + TRUST + RESPECT = RELATIONSHIP
Suggestions on Parenting Children
1. Do not accept child’s excuses for forgetting their responsibilities.
2. Have child repeat what you asked them to do.
3. Deliver directions in a supportive way.
4. Be consistent in your expectations.
5. Give children directions with only two or three steps.
6. Use a timer to assist child in time allowed to comply with directions.
7. Establish a regular routine.
8. If child is unable to follow directions while doing an activity then they do not do that activity.
9. Use written directions along with verbal.
10. Have child learn organization skills.
11. If child does not pick up room before bed, pick up all objects and confiscate for a period of time.
12. Do not replace or get more toys, games, etc., until child shows ability to take care of the ones they have.
13. Child is responsible for replacement of lost, broken, or damaged things.
Chat With Rhonda
March 2010
In keeping with the focus of this year on the parents/caregivers, I receive many contacts on how do we parent our child who has AI/RAD. That is a very complicated question as there are so many variables. I have yet to meet the AI/RAD child who will respond the way I expect or hope they will. These children expel a tremendous amount of time and energy trying to out think, control, and out manipulate us. I can share that you will need to develop improved and new parenting skills to accomplish the task of parenting these children. Here are but a few suggestions and you can find more information in my book.
CONTROL WITHOUT PAIN + TRUST + RESPECT = RELATIONSHIP
Suggestions on Parenting Children
1. Do not accept child’s excuses for forgetting their responsibilities.
2. Have child repeat what you asked them to do.
3. Deliver directions in a supportive way.
4. Be consistent in your expectations.
5. Give children directions with only two or three steps.
6. Use a timer to assist child in time allowed to comply with directions.
7. Establish a regular routine.
8. If child is unable to follow directions while doing an activity then they do not do that activity.
9. Use written directions along with verbal.
10. Have child learn organization skills.
11. If child does not pick up room before bed, pick up all objects and confiscate for a period of time.
12. Do not replace or get more toys, games, etc., until child shows ability to take care of the ones they have.
14. Teach time management skills.
15. Have your child ask for help, do not rescue them.
16. Supervise your child as much as they need to be successful.
17. Do not give in or argue with your child because you are the responsible adult.
18. Do not allow your child to question you in public.
19. Let your child know that total fairness is impossible.
20. Your child needs to ask permission well in advance to do things.
21. Your child does not ask for permission in front of others or in public places.
22. Let your child know that privileges can be suspended immediately.
For more on this issue see my book or
CD’s which you may purchase from this site.
